How can you help Anatomie?

We have been very touched with the various messages received from members asking how to help us out during these uncertain times (thank you!), so we have put a little something together below to let you all know how exactly you can help support us!

Buy our rope or recommend our store to friends & social media

One of the best ways to support us is to buy our rope from our store at ShibariStore.com! Our team of in store 3 staff members are super dedicated and hard working, they treat all the rope and package every order with love and care.

We currently have a few promos going on:

  1. FREE Tenugui (Japanese cloth for blindfolds or gags) with orders above £60 with the code FREEGIFT1
  2. FREE Tenigui plus Flick Stick with orders above £90 with the code FREEGIFT2
  3. 50% Discount at ShibariStudy.com with the purchase of our Shibari Study Kit

If you didn’t know this already, we also have an Etsy shop where we sell raw rope at very affordable prices.

Perhaps a set of rope will find itself underneath your Christmas tree… ?

You can also recommend our store to friends and followers on social media!

Join our online classes or recommend them & re-share on social media

Every Thursday this month we are hosting online beginners rope sessions for the new and curious! Every Thursday we will are teaching something different.

The sessions cost £10 per log-in and there is no commitment to turn on your camera or participate if you are feeling shy or unsure.

Sessions are open to pairs or soloists, and there is zero experience needed.

We also have a couple of other classes on offer which you can check out over here!

As with our store, feel free to share this information with friends and followers on social media!

Book into our classes and Rope Jams in December

We are set to open as soon as lockdown ends on December 2nd.

Events coming up are: bi-weekly Rope Jams, a weekend Intro to Shibari Course, our advanced suspension course, Drawn to Rope (life drawing), and a Day Rope Jam!

All of these are listed over here.

Order Gift Certificates (NEW!)

We have also introduced new Gift Certificates: one valid for our online store, and one valid for classes and workshops (or private lessons) at the studio.

Perhaps an idea for a Christmas gift… ?

They come in valued from £25 t0 £200 and you can purchase them from our store over here!

Pre-paid Rope jams (NEW!)

We are also rolling our pre-paid Rope Jam cards! These are valid for Tuesday, Thursday and weekend Day Jams from December onwards.

A Rope Jam costs £10 per person, but our pre-paid cards cost £80 so you get 10 jams for the price of 8!

You can purchase these from our store over here, we will hold on to your card until your first Rope Jam back at the studio.

Thank you!

Thank you for your continued support, it means the world to us that you value and cherish the space we’ve created. We hope to see you all very soon!

For any questions, please email us at anatomie.studio@gmail.com.

England national lockdown and what this means for the studio

In accordance with government guidelines we will be closed for in-person activities from Thursday November 5th until December 2nd.

What does this mean for our events this month?

In-person events going ahead this week:

Our Tuesday November 3rd Rope Jam will go ahead as planned and will be our last rope jam before closing. We have a few limited places available that you can book here.

Our Wednesday Drawn to Rope event will also be going ahead as planned. We are sold out of in-person tickets but we have plenty of online tickets available over here.

Events moving online

Our November Tuesday rope jams will be cancelled from Tuesday November 10th and in lieu of these we will be opening a Zoom channel for folx to hang out and socialise. The channel will be open from 7 to 9pm and you can drop in and out however you’d like. This is a weekly opportunity to stay connected to each other. The sessions are free and the link will be circulated every week on our Discord channel.

Our Thursday beginner sessions will be held online from Thursday November 5th. Sessions will run from 7 to 9pm and hosted by studio owners Fred Hatt & Anna Bones. You can purchase tickets over here.

Our in-person evening Takate Kote crash course which was due to take place on Wednesday November 18th has been postponed to December 9th (tickets for this session are available here). In addition to this we are offering an online Takate Kote intro class taught by Fred & Anna which you can attend with or without a partner. Tickets are available here.

All our online events can be found here.

Events being deferred

Our Discover Shibari weekend beginners course due to take place on November 7-8 will be pushed to December 12-13. The event is currently sold out but we anticipate places becoming available as a result of the deferral (so do sign-up to the waiting list here).

Our Air Time weekend course due to take place on the last weekend in November will be pushed to December 5-6. There is one place available currently, which you can book here.

Our in-person evening Takate Kote crash course which was due to take place on Wednesday November 18th has been postponed to December 9th (tickets are available here). In addition to this we are offering an online Takate Kote intro class taught by Fred & Anna which you can attend with or without a partner. Tickets are available here.

Events being cancelled

Our ‘Office Space’ events have been cancelled and customers refunded, as has the November Day Rope Jam. Our December Day Rope Jam is still scheduled to go ahead and tickets can be found here.

Thank you for your patience while we navigate this second lockdown! Emails will be going out in the coming days as well as any refunds, and if you have any questions please get in touch at anatomie.studio@gmail.com.

How do the new Tier 2 restrictions affect rope jams and events?

Following the annoucement of new restrictions coming into effect on Friday 16th of October, here is how this will affect our jams and events:

The new rules stipulate that “activities, such as indoor exercise classes and other activity groups can only continue provided that households or support bubbles do not mix. Where it is likely that groups will mix, these activities must not go ahead.”

See the government rules here.

Since reopening we host groups of 2 (occasionally 3 to 4) people in the space, socially distancing from other groups of 2-4 people – with a maximum of 24 booked attendees in the space.

NEW: we ask that you only attend events in the space with members of your household or bubble and socially distance from from other pairs/small groups that are are not part of your household or bubble. We will take it on good faith that you are following these guidelines. If you wish to be refunded or deferred, please email us at anatomie.studio@gmail.com.

The studio is kept well ventilated and we have placed clear markings on the floor delineating 2 by 2 meter squares to facilitate social distancing. Masks are mandatory (NO exceptions/exemptions) when entering and when moving around in the space. If you do not have your own, we can provide them for free.

There are a total of 11 large bottles of sanitiser throughout the space, and 6 large packets of Clinell disinfectant wipes which you are encouraged to use.

Furthermore, because of our pre-booking system, we are able to keep a record of who is attending our events. In the event that someone develops symptoms and notifies us, we will be able to notify those present at the same event.

Our Covid-19 guidelines are stated in all our event listings (which you can find here). They are as follow (slight variations depending on the event):

• Covid-19 guidelines

– Self-tying, partners and small groups welcome – self-tying or pre-arranged tying with partners/small groups (no bigger than 4 and) you either live with or have agreed to form bubbles with.

– Distancing – please maintain safe physical distance from others in the space (2 meters) in the studio. At the entrance please queue keeping distance, and wait until the changing area is empty to step in.

– Face coverings – masks are mandatory (no exceptions or exemptions) when you are moving in the space. You can remove your mask when you are seated in your tying area.

– Symptoms – do not come if you or somebody you live with have symptoms, if you develop symptoms after coming to the studio please notify us right away so we can notify everyone that was at the studio. Refer to the NHS guidance to check your symptoms.

– Cleaning – hand sanitiser and antiseptic cleaning towels will be available throughout the studio, please use these to clean any surfaces you use.

– After you tie – we ask everyone to clean the floor they tied on before departing using the antiseptic cleaning towels we provide in the studio.

– BYOM(ug) – please remember to bring your own water bottles/tea or coffee mugs/containers to consume beverages/food in the studio. Our communal cups and cutlery are back out, if you use them please clean them very thoroughly before and after use.

For any questions, email us at anatomie.studio@gmail.com.

To book into a rope jam, it’s here.
To book into a class, it’s here.

How do the new rules affect rope jams and events?

Due to how we have been running rope jams and events so far, we are already following the new rules coming in effect on Monday 14th.

The new rules stipulate that group gatherings are limited to a maximum of 6 people (previously the limit was 30), which is well above what we allow in the space since reopening.

See the government rules here.

Since reopening we host groups of 2 (occasionally 3) people in the space, socially distancing from other groups of 2-3 people – with a maximum of 24 booked attendees in the space.

The space is kept well ventilated and we have placed clear markings on the floor delineating 2 by 2 meter squares to facilitate social distancing. Masks are mandatory when entering and when moving around in the space. If you do not have your own, we can provide them for free.

There are a total of 11 large bottles of sanitiser throughout the space, and 6 large packets of Clinell disinfectant wipes which you are encouraged to use.

Furthermore, because of our pre-booking system, we are able to keep a record of who is attending our events. In the event that someone develops symptoms and notifies us, we would be able to notify those present at the same event.

Our Covid-19 guidelines are stated in all our event listings (which you can find here). They are as follow (slight variations depending on the event):

• Covid-19 guidelines

– Self-tying, partners and small groups welcome – self-tying or pre-arranged tying with partners/small groups (no bigger than 4) you have agreed to form bubbles with.

– Distancing – please maintain safe physical distance from others in the space (2 meters) in the studio. At the entrance please queue keeping distance, and wait until the changing area is empty to step in.

– Face coverings – please wear a mask when you are moving in the space, especially in the communal areas like entrance and kitchen. You can remove your mask when you are seated in your tying area.

– Symptoms – do not come if you or somebody you live with have symptoms, if you develop symptoms after coming to the studio please notify us right away so we can notify everyone that was at the studio. Refer to the NHS guidance to check your symptoms.

– Cleaning – hand sanitiser and antiseptic cleaning towels will be available throughout the studio, please use these to clean any surfaces you use.

– After you tie – we ask everyone to clean the floor they tied on before departing using the antiseptic cleaning towels we provide in the studio.

– BYOM(ug) – please remember to bring your own water bottles/tea or coffee mugs/containers to consume beverages/food in the studio.

For any questions, email us at anatomie.studio@gmail.com.

To book into a rope jam, it’s here.
To book into a class, it’s here.

Rope Jams are back in August!

Rope Jams are back!  We are excited to announce we are reopening for jams in August! We have put changes in place due to Covid-19, namely very limited numbers and pre-bookings required.

Carefully read the full list of guidelines on the ticketing website before booking.

We are also excited to be reopening classes with limited numbers!

Our Discover Shibari weekend workshop is sold out, but we have a partial suspensions workshop coming up on the last weekend of August that still has places available, and an evening Takate Kote class that is also available for bookings.

Please note that due to Covid-19 we have no individual tickets on sale at the moment.

NEW! We have created a new Discord group for you to connect online after jams and workshops. Find your personal invite link on your rope jam or class ticket stub!

See you soon!

Consent, Power Exchange, and the Myth of “Just Say No”

A lot of folx in the kink scene enjoy playing with Power Exchange in their scenes. These can be an empowering and positive vehicle for exploring vulnerability and trust within mutually consenting partnerships. 

But are you fetishising implicit power imbalances? Or are you attracted to freely given and explicitly negotiated exchanges of power? 

The internet is rife with stories of consent violations, one common pattern is the following: experienced folx who are well integrated in the community in positions of power playing often and fast with newer, younger, more vulnerable, less experienced and less integrated members of the community. While play is often negotiated, the wider power imbalance is less often acknowledged or addressed. Without this, the power is not exchanged, it is taken. And for this reason “saying no”, safe-wording, establishing limits and boundaries all become difficult to freely express.

Status, location, degree of experience, age, ethnicity, gender and body size are all sources of power imbalances. In order for power to be a mutually agreed upon *exchange* between consenting partners, there needs to be a conscientious effort at power redistribution before play.

For most folx, consent can be boiled down to: “just say no” and “use your safeword”.

The reality is that there are many folx who experience consent violations who are experts at establishing boundaries and negotiating scenes, they know how and when to say “no”, they know how to advocate for themselves, and have an excellent track record of using safewords.

There are many circumstances when “speaking up” and “just saying no” are very difficult or impossible: If you are playing in public and people are watching, you may feel pressure to not speak up, if you are playing in private with someone who can or has overpowered you physically you may fear for your safety and not speak up, if you are playing with someone who has more status (even if perceived) than you you may feel pressure to comply and stay quiet, if something very unexpected happens in the middle of a scene the shock may make you freeze and not speak up. Etc.

There are automated responses that we have no control over (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Flop, Friend). Different situations might trigger them, and we don’t know until we experience them. Nobody will say “no” in a freeze/flop/friend scenario!

While empowering folx to “say no”, to “use their safeword” and “negotiate your limits” are all very important and very central to consent education in the kink scene, this also needs to be paired with notions of “responsibility to inform” and “duty of care” on the part of the giver in a scene. 

Otherwise we are placing all or most of the burden on the part of the receiver, who is many times restrained and in an altered psychological state (aka “spaced out”).

As the person with the most power (i.e., access to resources) in a scene you can: slow down play, play well below the person’s limits or their safeword, say no to play if the person is too new and not integrated enough in the community, play in a safe place (a relaxed community event rather than in private), check-in during play and get explicit verbal consent for activities, inform them of risks and potential consequences, direct them towards resources, and generally create an environment where people feel empowered to express desires, dislikes, “no’s” and safewords.

While learning to advocate for oneself is very important, consent is a lot more complex than “just say no” and “use your safeword”.

Inspired by @kinkyblackeducator “The Facets of Consent” and “The Responsibility of Dominance” talks.

The Black, Transgender Origins of Pride

A text by Petite Pretzel

This new Pride flag highlights the beginning of the LGBTQIA+ Pride Movement in the US led by Black Trans women/MaGe like Marsha P. Johnson and Ms Major, as well as Trans PoC like Sylvia Rivera and Victoria Cruz.
The flags center Trans and Queer Black, Brown, and Indigenous people, who endure disproportionate murder rates and other transphobic targeting.
Visit: https://www.newprideflag.com/about/

Black people, in particular black people and sex workers, have fought for LGBT rights by rising up against police harassment. Today’s celebration has grown out of yesterday’s political adversity – an adversity that still persists. Outsiders – ethnic minorities, queer people, gender non-conforming people and sex workers – have long been targeted by police. Queer people also opposed police brutality in 1959 at the Cooper Do-nuts cafe in Los Angeles and in 1966 at the Compton’s Cafeteria riot before the more famous 1969 Stonewall riots. People of colour from both the East Coast and the West Coast led activism for LGBT rights. “It wasn’t all those crewnecked white boys in the Hamptons and the Pines who changed things, but the black kids and Puerto Rican transvestites who came down to the Village on the subway,” American novelist Edmund White recounts. Queer activists of colour like Martha P. Johnson in New York and Felizia Elizondo in San Francisco blazed the way.

“It was against the law to wear long hair. It was against the law to dress like a woman. If the police [saw] you on the sidewalk walking, they would take you to jail for obstructing the sidewalk,” Elizondo, a Latinx transgender woman, remembers. Cops arrested people for having a different gender presentation than that listed on their ID and for homosexual acts, which remained illegal in the United States until 2003. The Cooper’s Do-nuts riot of 1959 was triggered when LAPD attempted to arrest three men simply for patronising a known gay hangout. Drag queens, transwomen and others threw plates, coffee and donuts until officers withdrew to summon backup. Their return with reinforcements caused a riot so large the main street shut down. This act of resistance is considered the first gay uprising in modern history.

The Compton’s Cafeteria riot of 1966 kicked off when a transwoman reacted to a police officer grabbing her shoulder by throwing a cup of coffee in the man’s face. The authorities had been aggressively raiding queer establishments and simultaneously ignoring a serial killer who targeted their community. Donna Personna, a longtime queer activist and former sex worker, remembers “intense violence” from johns and from the San Francisco Police Department. The cafeteria was a community hub where she and her peers could check up on and care for each other. Personna, raised in a Mexican Baptist household, considered the cafe her home and the patrons her sisters. The cup of coffee proved to be the straw that broke the camel’s back; “women…[threw] sugar shakers through the glass windows and drag queens [beat] police with their purses.” A newsstand went up in flames and a police car was wrecked in the ensuing chaos. The women were unsurprisingly arrested but the riots continued for three nights.

A late-night scene in Gene Compton’s Cafeteria. The cafeteria was a popular destination for queer people of all kinds: hustlers, queens, hair fairies. This photo shows an Imperial Court of San Francisco event at the cafeteria. The date and names of the subjects are unknown.
Photo: Henry Leleu, Courtesy the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Historical Society.
Read:: https://www.sfchronicle.com/bayarea/article/The-queer-riot-that-predated-Stonewall-50-years-8323730.php.

Sylvia Rivera was meant to go to Martha P. Johnson’s birthday party on the night of the Stonewall Riots in 1969. They were both transgender sex workers who became politically active in the New York scene at the same time; Rivera was a Puerto Rican drag queen while Johnson was African-American. They both frequented Greenwich Village, which was frequently targeted by police as a gay neighbourhood. Cops used entrapment tactics to arrest men for solicitation and raided bars, revoking their liquor licenses if they had “disorderly” patrons. When the NYPD set upon the Stonewall Inn, the tension had reached breaking point. The officers roughly hauled staff and customers out of the bar. “We were not taking any more of this shit,” Rivera declares. “It was time [to fight].” People outside began throwing bottles and the riot on Christopher Street continued for six days.

Protesters took to the streets in the aftermath of the Stonewall riots in lower Manhattan in the summer of 1969. Stonewall marked a turning point in the gay rights movement.

It’s worth noting that many people would not have identified as transgender because the vernacular at that time was different. For instance, the 1966 revolt was reported with the headline “Drag queens protest police harassment at Compton’s Cafeteria”. Later, “transgender” and “transsexual” were largely used in reference to trans people who had and had not had sex-change operations. Growing up a feminine Latinx boy, Elizondo was called “joto,” “queer,” “sissy.” “Transvestite” and “cross-dresser” further described a spectrum of gender nonconformity. The words used to identify queer people were (and continue to be) overwhelmingly pejorative, although of course some are being reclaimed. There is some irony that the bravery of so-called deviants and ‘sissies’ created the possibility of queer liberation.

We cannot allow Pride to be whitewashed. It is not just a party, but an opportunity to reflect. The systematic targeting of black and brown people by police is an indisputably central element in queer history. People of colour continue to be on the frontlines today. Martha P. Johnson, Sylvia Rivera, Donna Personna and Felicia Elizondo are only a few of the heroines we celebrate and we are inspired by their example as we march forward.

Written by studio team member Petite Pretzel.

We stand in solidarity with the George Floyd protests and the black community worldwide.

We stand in solidarity with the George Floyd protests and the black community worldwide.

Some thoughts from Anatomie:

The rope and kink community in London is predominantly white, and while this is rapidly changing over the last few years, there is still a noticeable lack of diversity in images and educators that doesn’t reflect the changing demographics on the ground. We will certainly be paying close attention to our own role in closing the gap in this discrepancy, because visibility matters and representation matters.

Our premises are located in Peckham (London, UK), which is a predominantly black neighbourhood. We are a direct result of gentrification of the area, part of those slow waves of white folk with some money moving into ‘ethnically diverse’ boroughs of London. We are benefiting directly from the work and culture of black folk who have created the local markets, the shops, and have made this place into the vibrant and community orientated area that it is. We see you, and we are grateful to you. We will be thinking about how we can better contribute to local economy and support local black owned businesses in our area.

We are sharing below a list of UK based organisations that are geared towards helping the black community in the UK as well as organisations in the US that are helping protestors and victims of police brutality. This week we will be donating money to some of these organisations.

We appreciate that not everyone is a position to donate, so we also sharing anti-racist resources for white people which include books, movies, podcasts and articles that you can read.

We will be doing our homework, will you join us in doing the same?

1. A List of Anti Racism Resources –
https://www.londonbipandas.com/…/all-the-anti-racism-resour…

2. Anti Racism Resources for White People –https://docs.google.com/…/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-V…/mobilebasic

3. “UK anti-racism charities and organisations you can support right now” –
https://www.stylist.co.uk/…/uk-anti-racism-charities…/395365

4. “How to donate to Black Lives Matter and the George Floyd memorial fund” –
https://www.standard.co.uk/…/donate-black-lives-matter-geor…

5. “Black Organisations Supporting Young People” – http://blackeconomics.co.uk/…/black-organisations-support-…/

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