Traditionally, safe words are used to slow down or pause play. This works pretty well for the most part. Popular safe words are words that aren’t often used in play (such as “pineapple”, although no shame to those of you who do incorporate pineapples into your play) or graded systems, like numerical scales or traffic lights.
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Into the Blues: when you drop like a hot potato
A little while after I started exploring kink, I realised I would have a sort of “come down” after sessions. It took me a long time to realise that this was likely a form of “drop”, and that it was quite a normal thing that happened.
Nine Unexpected Positives of Choosing Shibari As your Next Hobby
Often when we start out with something new, we have some idea of what the benefits of it might be. However, there are almost always advantages that come as surprise bonuses.
So here are a few reasons why we think shibari should be your 2023 hobby of choice.
Introducing The Wheel of Consent: When “Hell yes!” and “No way,” just aren’t enough.
However well we align with our partners, it’s unlikely that we are able to say an enthusiastic, “Hell yes!” to every single thing they enjoy, every single time they want to do it. Enter: The Wheel of Consent.
Kink Frenzy: When you say, “Yes!” to walking red flags (and what to do about it)
Frenzy (the temptation to say, “Yes!” to walking red flags) happens to us all. Here’s how to recognise it and what to do if it strikes!
Talking Shibari: a guide to rope-related vocabulary
Learning shibari can feel like learning a new language. Here’s our guide to the most common rope-related words you are likely to hear as you start out. Roles in rope Rigger The rigger is the person who does the tying. Some people prefer to use the word “Rope Top”, not to be confused with “Dominant”,Continue reading “Talking Shibari: a guide to rope-related vocabulary”
What Skills and Qualities Should a Good Rope Teacher Have?
In my past life I was a primary school teacher. I quit a few years ago to pursue other interests, but I always said that teaching was in my soul. And what do you know? Here I am, embarking on a whole other teaching journey: teaching shibari to adults. As a trained teacher, I amContinue reading “What Skills and Qualities Should a Good Rope Teacher Have?”
Not connecting with kink? You might be suffering from kink burnout
If kink is starting to feel like walking through mud, or if you feel like you’re an extra in a vaguely kinky version of Groundhog Day you might be suffering from kink burnout. Here’s what you need to know.
11 Tips to Help you Get Really Good at Tying
You’ve tried a taster class, but what next? Maybe you’ve been tying at home for a while, learning from YouTube videos and improvising, but don’t feel confident attempting suspension yet. When you watch other people suspending, they make it look effortless, and wondering how. Here are 11 tips on how to get really good at tying.
Feel the fear and do it anyway: advice for people over 40 (from people over 40) in the kink scene
Navigating the kink scene is generally a great mix of exciting and daunting. If you’re discovering your kinky side when you’re no longer a 20- or 30-something, though, there is a unique set of challenges that you might face. Here is our advice for people over 40 (from people over 40) on how to navigate the kink scene.