Pregnancy is a time of enormous transformation — physically, emotionally, and relationally. For those who practise shibari, this can raise a lot of questions:Is it safe to do rope while pregnant? What needs to change? Can we still feel connected through tying? The short answer is: yes, it’s possible — but it does require adjustments,ContinueContinue reading “9 Things to Consider When Practising Shibari During Pregnancy”
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11 Questions to Ask Before Tying with Someone New
Before tying with someone new, there’s a lot to consider—safety, experience, desires, and those little things that create a fulfilling and connected rope scene. Since we all have different approaches to rope, we asked our community what questions they ask (or wish they’d asked) before tying with a new partner. These 11 questions aren’t justContinueContinue reading “11 Questions to Ask Before Tying with Someone New”
7 Essential Tips for Safe Rope Play with New Partners
Tying with a new rope partner is thrilling, no doubt. But as exciting as it is, rope comes with risks. So how do you keep that spark alive while ensuring everyone’s safety? Here’s how.
Shibari: is it Just a Code Word for Sex?
At its core, shibari is an erotic practice. However, does “eroticism” necessarily mean sex? Do intimate moments in rope only happen within sexually charged or romantic encounters? And importantly, does agreeing to engage in rope play imply an expectation of sex?
Notes from Talking Rope: Disability and Kink
Anatomie runs regular “Talking Rope” sessions, in which the community is invited to discuss a variety of topics that relate to shibari. On Feb 25th, Rory Ropes and Jenni Noon facilitated a conversation around disability and rope. Please note, these are the views of people in attendance only.
Should we Use Safe Words in Shibari?
Traditionally, safe words are used to slow down or pause play. This works pretty well for the most part. Popular safe words are words that aren’t often used in play (such as “pineapple”, although no shame to those of you who do incorporate pineapples into your play) or graded systems, like numerical scales or traffic lights.
Into the Blues: when you drop like a hot potato
A little while after I started exploring kink, I realised I would have a sort of “come down” after sessions. It took me a long time to realise that this was likely a form of “drop”, and that it was quite a normal thing that happened.
Introducing The Wheel of Consent: When “Hell yes!” and “No way,” just aren’t enough.
However well we align with our partners, it’s unlikely that we are able to say an enthusiastic, “Hell yes!” to every single thing they enjoy, every single time they want to do it. Enter: The Wheel of Consent.
Kink Frenzy: When you say, “Yes!” to walking red flags (and what to do about it)
Frenzy (the temptation to say, “Yes!” to walking red flags) happens to us all. Here’s how to recognise it and what to do if it strikes!
Not connecting with kink? You might be suffering from kink burnout
If kink is starting to feel like walking through mud, or if you feel like you’re an extra in a vaguely kinky version of Groundhog Day you might be suffering from kink burnout. Here’s what you need to know.